There is a fine line between
giving care and trying to fix the problems of others. In our family
we are well acquainted with the Crusader Rabbit syndrome. Crusader
Rabbit is large, white, fluffy bunny that takes his sword, his shield
and his lance, mounts his white stallion and charges down on a problem
situation (or person) and attempts to fix things. The problem is,
that fixing things is not our responsibility, but loving and giving care
is. Generally speaking, when Crusader Rabbit mounts his white horse
and charges down he is about to get knocked off his horse.
Unlike the shrunken soul who
said that the best advice he ever received was to never volunteer, I think it
is a good thing to volunteer; You have remarked that as a child you were told
not to speak unless spoken to and to that you were to wait until you were asked,
before doing something.” As a child I
remember the dictum, "children should be seen and not
heard", (and I might, add “and preferably not seen either!”). That
kind of attitude was a vestige of those halcyon days when the governess
presented the children to the parents after dinner for inspection, but for
little else. Children should be respectful, but so should adults, even of
children. On a simple level even
respectful children would bless their parents by volunteering to wash the
dishes or walk the dog.
As for your living
arrangement. There are so many mixed motives and emotions in
any family living arrangement. What's done is done.
However there is here a matter for some serious and persistent
prayer. The question is not "What should I have done?", but,
"What should I do now?" The mind of man plans his way, but
the Lord directs his steps.
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